Ok, I have stumbled upon my favorite self-care!!! Hahahahaha drive-through car washes!!! Not only is it fun and relaxing to sit in my car and watch all the dirt, grim and yucky stuff get pounded, soaped and blown off my car but it is a perfect metaphor for meditation. Meditation does the same thing to our mind. It clears the worry, doubt, fear, stress and anxiety of our crazy thinking, monkey mind and nuttiness and we become our sparkly, shiny, patient and radiant selves.
What is your favorite self-care? It can be simple; your favorite cup of tea, a walk, a bath, a car wash? I would love to hear from you. Please let me know. As school is starting, more transitions, different and new routines, we need to factor ourselves into our day. Something that is purely for our sanity and well-being. When I do this, wow, it makes everything better!!! Like a grown-up time out hahahaha. Breath, relax and reset … then continue on!!! Experiment with this.
Keep up with the monthly meditation and commit to a daily act of self-care; simple yet powerful!!!
Happy Tuesday!!! Good luck to everyone with school starting this week (my daughter had her first day of college today and my son on the opposite coast started 8th grade). And I got a car wash!!!!
Love you all!!!
Transformation: from the pollywog to the frog, the caterpillar to the butterfly, from high school to college, from your first born being single to getting married, from childhood to adulthood to “elderhood.”
Transitions, change and transformation are a fact of life. How we choose to handle it and grow (or not) is what our life will be about. Funny that Julie, my right hand everything in Coaching with Courtney is on the eve of marrying her first born and I am off to take my first born to college. We are in the thick of major life markers, moments you remember your whole life. What I am doing in the midst of doctor’s appointments; runs to Bed, Bath and Beyond; driving all over; organizing and preparing is staying in the moment. The hectic, crazy moment, the laying on my daughter’s floor moment; the purging pictures, stacks of old homework and art, the laugh attack moment, the poignant moment of seeing her sit on her bed and realizing she won’t be there next week.
It is easy to just go to “we will call and FaceTime” . . . and we will and that will; the purging of pictures, stacks of old homework and art; the laugh attack moment; the poignant moment of seeing her sit on her bed and realizing she won’t be there next week. It is easy to just go to “we will call and FaceTime” and we will and that will be fun, but I want to go through the emotions that come up.
It is a transformation, for me, too, as a mother, as a woman, and as a human on my path. The flashbacks of pregnant me and then singing her into being and just the crazy love I have for this little being who isn’t little anymore.
I am a glass half-full person, I am so excited for her upcoming adventures and possibilities but just like I always say, “put the oxygen mask on yourself first, then help everyone else,” it is relevant, what I am experiencing and my transformation too. To acknowledge it, observe it, be present in it so that the moving through it is even a deeper connection to my own true journey of purpose.
So, I laugh and cry and laugh, laugh, and laugh, meditate, ponder, walk and remember and reminisce . . . it feels good to be here, in this moment with this girl. I love her so. Give this gift of presence to yourself when you are going through a “moment,” a time you know you will remember, let yourself be, enjoy it, even the parts that are hard and messy, you will grow and transform and deepen your purpose and clarity by allowing these moments to be truly lived.
Onward we go . . . until next Tuesday.
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This month’s meditation is on maturity. And when I thought of maturity, I thought that's a weird meditation on maturity, we’re all mature adults, right? No, we're not. And you know, little kids who are mature and you know, older people who are not mature, right?
Well, I just love this definition of maturity in terms of everything, really the planet and all the ways of being. We’re always talking coaching, right? About how do you want to be and who are you willing to be as you live out in the day, around people, and at the market, and in any, in any interaction, right? And in coaching we talk about “look, see, tell the truth, take authentic action”. And that's what helps get you through the monkey mind, right? Of worry, doubt, fear.
If you look and see and tell the truth, then you can see what's monkey mind and you know it's not the truth. And then you can continue to move forward in the direction of what's important to you. So what I love about Yogi Bhajan’s definition of maturity in this way is that: maturity is reality plus patience. That's maturity plus conscientiousness, right? Think of the greater good plus action.
I love that because if we all sifted our actions through that . . . for instance, we can even say a plastic bag, right? If we look at our actions and how they're going to ripple out for a hundred years, we would do some things differently, right? And if we did that as a whole, wow, then we can really shift the times, right? So if you take a plastic bag, you know, that plastic bag going to live a hundred years in the ocean or wherever it is. Do we want to do that? No.
So you can then decide not to take the bag at all or to take your cloth bag. Right? So it just a simple way to like look at your actions for a hundred years. So anyway, that's one of the things I just loved about this meditation and I think you'll love it.
I’m really excited to hear how it goes for everyone – be sure to click above if you’d like to join us!
Life is short. You’re born, you live, you die. We have time, an unknown amount, to do what we came here to do: to share, to learn, to teach, to connect, to serve? What did you come here to do?
I can guarantee you it wasn’t just to run to the grocery, pay bills, work, repeat. Do you know why you are here? Are you living that purpose? If not, let’s get clear, let’s dedicate time each day to that discovery. It doesn’t even have to be a lot of time. That’s why I made the 15 Minute Monkey Mind Manager and why my monthly meditations are 3 minutes(ish). Tuning into yourself every day is important to this discovery and to staying the course through all the twists, turns, ups and downs that are normal yet can throw us off course.
And if you know your purpose, yeaaaaaaa!!! Dial it up. The time is now. What do you want to leave behind? What effect do you want to have had here? I recently watched the movie Coco. What I just loved is the beautiful way it reminds us that by talking and remembering and seeing our loved ones in pictures we keep them alive, telling stories and sharing experiences.
What do you want to be remembered for? Who are you? Be it. Be it every day, everywhere you go, in all your encounters and interactions. It matters. It does. Like dropping a little pebble in the water, it ripples and ripples so far beyond the original plop. Radiate who you are, your energy, vibrancy and your true essence, touch lives and connect.
We were traveling and were out of state, heading to the airport and my daughter searched for veggie burger and found a place, so we ventured off and it was an amazing experience. The food was delicious and my son said, “that was the most amazing waiter I have ever had at a restaurant.” Connection, connection, connection: this young guy was so invested in making our experience awesome that it just had to be awesome and it was!!!! And we will all remember that lunch, and that guy, as much as the whole trip.
I met a dear friend that I have known for over 36 years in a convenient mart, in a state I was in for only a week, from my freshman year of college before social media and the internet where staying in touch wasn’t as simple as it is now. Amazing.
People are amazing and have so much to offer. Connect, see them, be you and experience all there is to experience. Make your time here count!!!
Love you all!!!
Courtney Gebhart, Life Coach, Kundalini Yoga teacher, and Human Being.