Let’s talk a little bit for about perfectionism. It's such a drag. Why does this creep into our brain from time to time? I feel like I have let myself off the hook for being perfect and yet it creeps in there every now and then and I'll think: why am I worried about this? Or why am I stressed about this? And then I realized it's because I want to do a good job or I want it to be good. And that's perfectionism really.
Because if I didn't care, I knew I would just do my best and do it, then that would be enough. Right? And so the worry about the result is what causes that anxiety in the moment.
I recently had an audition and it was so fun cause I haven't seen a lot of people that I got to see. And I love that. It's kind of an old community that I miss. And so when I have an audition, I get to see old friends. It's really fun. My friends and I were talking about, because of our age and stage there's less auditions for us. And so we're not as quite in the routine of audition, audition, audition, which makes it much more casual and less nerve-wracking, right? And when you just get one out of nowhere, it's a little bit more stressful.
And so why is that? Because we want it to be good. We want it to be perfect. We want to book the job, right? And so all of that is a monkey on our back. And so it was actually such a great conversation and we alleviated our perfectionism by releasing that deep conversation together.
And it was great and freeing, but I thought, you know what? It's like just when you think you don't have that happening, it happens, right? So it's kind of an ever-present awareness of letting yourself off that hook of being perfect, of making it right. Just do it and not worrying about the result.
It's hard sometimes because we want something or we want to do it well or we want to be good. But really that just causes stress and anxiety. And so as much as we can focus on what we're doing, then our consciousness and our awareness is in the action instead of the result, which causes that tension.
Hope you guys are having a good day.
Well, schools are pretty much out and it’s the Mom over-drive season! Whether you have a graduate and are looking at, “Yikes, now what?” or you have a full house or somewhere in between, this is the season to TAKE CARE of YOURSELF.
I need this reminder daily as I schlep, organize, drive here and there and back again to here and there. Don’t get me wrong I love this job and I know it is ever-fleeting but we cannot put ourselves on that back burner!!! How is that 3-minute meditation going? Are you doing it? Yeaaaaa!!!! If not no shame, no blame, no problem. Just jump back on it. It will make a difference. I promise you. Some days it is my salvation, my “Calgon”.
Do you remember that commercial, “Calgon take me away….” Hahaha. I don’t even know if it still exists but, man, we are still needing that break! At this time of year, I always feel like the energy is similar to the holiday scramble. Sooooo relieved to be released by the demands of the school schedule yet floundering a bit to find a rhythm. And one that works for all of us and so I don’t get sacrificed in the process.
I’ve found that especially as I have stepped deeper into entrepreneurship and new ventures, it has created a new “uncomfortable” around scheduling myself and everyone else. Life learning, life lessons, be kind to yourself! Meditate, chant (sing, if so inclined), walk, be in nature, girl time, laughter, animals and pets, podcasts, what else helps you? Tell me your recharge. What is it you do when you need to refuel your soul energy?
As we enter into the summer solstice energy with a half of a year in front of us, what do you want to do for yourself? What do you want the end of 2019 to be you can feel soooooo satisfied that you took yourself seriously enough to spend time on you and did _____________?
Let’s inspire each other to do something for ourselves. Let’s harness the summer solstice energy and create what we want for ourselves in the second half of 2019! Big, small doesn’t matter what but let’s do it and share it! Can’t wait to hear from you all.
Happy Tuesday and beyond!
It’s funny that they say, “growing pains,” when a kid is growing. As they push into their body and it starts expanding and literally is growing inches, pain occurs. Like when the baby teeth are pushing through the gums, when the big teeth push the little teeth out, when your bones and ligaments and all the tendons lengthen and stretch as you grow.
It also refers to transitions in development; infant to toddler (falling thousands of times before the reward of walking is earned), child to teen (being socially awkward and hormonally challenged as the brain is also undergoing shifts), and it continues to adulthood. It seems that most of our growing comes from pain, we are forced into a situation where we have to grow to move on. Like a crazy video game where you are zooming along and then bam you can’t advance to the next level until you go through some crazy, intense, sometimes seemingly impossible growth spurt that then catapults you way forward into a land you never even knew existed!!!
Growing pains from transitioning into our 20s, 30’s, 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, 90s and more. Each of these stages is different for each person. No two journeys are alike. Sometimes the growing pains can come from an event: a serious illness, a death of a loved one, our kids moving out, divorce, death of a pet, loss of a job etc.
Why does it take a crisis for us to grow? Why can’t things just be humming along and then we say, “wow, I think I will grow now?” Hahahahahaha, sounds ridiculous just saying it because it is so not the way it works. So, whether you are on a roll, in the flow, having come out of a growth spurt or if you are entering a challenging time, feeling like the dark hole will never end …know and have faith that it does. The one thing for sure is that change is a guarantee.
Ever more the reminder to be grateful when we are sailing with the wind and when the storm hits, grateful for where we are growing into and where we will emerge. Give yourself time and space to grow, even when it hurts. Because imagine if we stopped trying to walk after the 1000th fall, if we just gave up and became a forever crawler. . .hahahaha right?
Happy Tuesday in whatever stage you are in. I am thinking about you and sending love!!! Thanks for joining me weekly for these tidbits.
Courtney Gebhart, Life Coach, Kundalini Yoga teacher, and Human Being.