Happy, happy New Year!!!!
What is it you want to “be” in 2020? Not more to-dos but more I ams.
I am kind
I am creative
I am generous
I am successful
I am living abundantly
I am loving
I am patient
I am willing to grow
I am excited about my future
What are you willing “to be” that you have tiptoed around but haven’t jumped fully into? Let’s do it. Let’s jump in fully. Yes, maybe scary . . . maybe the what ifs pop up.
What if I can’t
What if I don’t
What if it’s too this or that
But guess what? What if it was more than you can even imagine?
Are you willing?
Time is going to pass anyway. Another year is going to come and go. So, let’s do something together that would make a difference in your life. As James Clear says in his book, How to Create Atomic Habits, if you can be 1% better every day, in creating your new habit it is like compound interest, the results will start stacking.
So, if it’s self-care or you have put OPP (Other People’s Priorities) ahead of your own then just commit to one small – and I mean small – new habit a day that moves the needle just 1%.
Like what, you ask? I am going to do one small thing for myself every day. Making myself a Priority. List out some ideas so you don’t “forget” and put them in your phone.
It could be things like:
Monday: Have my favorite tea (and acknowledge it. Savor it. Rushing to pick up a kid with your tea in the to go cup isn’t the same thing hahahaha)
Tuesday: read the Tuesday Tidbit (hahahaha)
Wednesday: Take a 10-minute walk
Thursday: Sit outside under a tree (for 10 minutes)
Friday: Take a bath
Saturday: Read a good book (go small-10 minutes)
Sunday: Write for 10 minutes a day.
Take 10 minutes today and just list out, stream of consciousness . . . so that you have a list to pick from. Believe me, sounds silly but if you are like me, sometimes you can’t even think of a small act of self-care. Be prepared for when you have a free ½ hour all of a sudden! What could you plop into that space that would mean something to you? You need to be able to go look at your list and pick one. Otherwise it might get filled with something you need to do for someone else.
It will get easier and it will be fun. Your brain will be grateful and it will become a habit!
For example: if I am willing to take better care of myself. I am committed to walking for 10 minutes, 5 days a week (or three days). Remember it is small so that we are successful. Make it seem too easy. Don’t monkey mind yourself into making it too big. The mind can get loud here: “Three days won’t do anything”.
Well maybe three days won’t do anything after 3 days but if you do three days for a year it will have made a difference. I love this 1% idea. When I am coaching clients, I always talk about taking “a small sweet step”. It is another way of saying it. The thing is small steps move mountains with consistent and continuous actions. That is what makes the difference. That is where your monkey mind might enter:
This is stupid.
This isn’t going to do anything.
I need to go big or go home.
Ugh I can’t.
Yes, you can. You need to be willing.
Willing to try. Willing to want it and willing to jump in. Tony Robbins always says that the difference he has seen in working with hundreds of thousands of people is that the successful people have a hunger. That is what drives them.
It could be the hunger to make a difference, to contribute, to live better, to love yourself more, to take care of yourself, to be something.
The hunger is personal to you.
I am hungry.
I am willing to be hungry.
Reinvent, reimagine, rediscover . . .
2020. A new decade. What, will you look back on and say, “wow, I am so glad I jumped into that and just went for it”.
I was willing and now I am____________.
Tell me. Share. I would love to hear from you.
Thanks for listening this year. Thanks for participating with me and being a part of my journey as a coach. I have loved your stories and success. That is just the best!!!! I love it. So please share with me. Thank you thank you thank you.
Let’s all grow!!!!
Happy Tuesday and happy new year.
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I am growing!
Thanks for helping spread the word.
Holidays are upon us. I hope you have all been able to place some down time, self-care, relaxation and just plain chill time into all that is going on. This time of year is such an example of everything; the ups and downs, the hectic and calm, the sweet sentimental and sometimes the stressful and crazy making.
It is like life itself. It is all there. In every moment the beauty and the pain. The light and the darkness. As we grow and change and keep peeling those layers of the onion we are met with lessons. Some are fun and some are not. Either way they have come to us for a reason and walking through it is the hero’s journey. Joseph Campbell speaks of the hero’s journey; our call to adventure, where we through a crisis, become victorious and hence transformed.
Our life is this adventure. We continue to grow and change and fulfill our purpose, being present in the moments, listening to what we need to hear, the guiding and revealing of our next steps and taking actions that align with the mission we are on.
My prayer and wish for all of you is that you tune into yourself, deeply listening to the call of your heart, revealing what it is that you are to do and that you do it. No matter what. We need you to be you, the brightest, biggest you that you are meant to be. Lay down the fear and worry, rest it, let it float away and bring yourself fully to this new decade.
Take this last week of the year and think about this. Stew on it. What do you hear? Can you hear what you are trying to tell yourself? What do you need to do? Why? If you don’t know then quiet the noise around you. Walks are very powerful for me. I “hear” a lot when I am walking. I get many messages. Try it. Keep trying things until you “hear” it.
Let’s accept this adventure and transform ourselves and the world by being fully who we are meant to be!!!
Happy, happy Tuesday
Well, as we are coming into the holidays; kids getting out of school, shopping, food prep, gift giving, parties, teacher gifts, holiday events, work parties, etc. – I want to say; relax and take a time out!!!! Whenever you need it! Really, seriously, promise?
I am committed to this and, wow, what a difference it is making. Even sitting for 15 minutes and doing a puzzle or resting with your cat (who is the master of relaxation and self-care hahahahaha). Find these little moments in your day to take a time out. This is the gateway to staying healthy mentally and physically! So interesting that this year, my son is not in a traditional school and he hasn’t been sick once (neither have I). Less stress, less driving, less germs, more resting, more drinking water, better eating and it all adds up.
I was reminded recently about my need to drink ½ my body weight in ounces. I thought I was drinking a lot of water but when I really measured it, I saw that I was not drinking enough. That little, conscious shift helped me feel better (and it was an easy tweak to my day).
Just a tidbit to observe and see where you can pump up your self-care so that your health can benefit. I think I used to think of self-care as luxurious; nails (which I never do), hair, spa day, vacations so it always felt like too much.
For me self-care is the little bits all day long that are taking myself seriously when I need to just stop, stop doing and rest, relax and be quiet. Hope this can be a reminder to allow yourself the time out you may need. To not over think it or make it so big you don’t do it. Just to take yourself seriously and allow for the space to BE.
Love you guys. Hope the meditation is also adding care to you.
You know, when you're driving somewhere and you go there all the time and so you go the same way every time you go there? And sometimes you don't even realize what you saw on the journey! You just got in your car and went there because it's so autopilot, right?
Because you just go there every day, drive the same direction, you don't really notice things. You're just in your head and then all of a sudden, you're there and you don’t even remember driving there. So then maybe Waze or somebody will say, “Hey, you know, will you go that way so you can pick up something for me?” And so it'll force you to go a different way. And when you do that, you see things you never would have. There's different choices and options and streets. And that's kind of how coaching is.
It's like you can keep doing the same thing over and over and working hard and having good intentions and sometimes when it isn't working, you need to have that “Waze” pop in and say, go this way, try this, go that direction. You're still going to get to that destination, but maybe it'll bring you something else that you hadn't thought of. Because in your own sphere you just can't think of it.
I've definitely had this where just having another perspective has helped me. Get an “aha moment” within myself by seeing it another way. Just one of the benefits of having a coach. So many people are so close to doing what they want to do and it could be just a tiniest little thing and boom, you’re there! I would love to help you get to be where you want to be. Feel free to reach out and let me know if you have questions.
Have you heard of the sandwich generation? Are you a part of it? Well, here is a holiday story that just summed it up hahahaha. Laughing til you cry, do you know that feeling? Or even crying til you laugh and back again.
My family from 78 to 14 was together on Thanksgiving. It was fun and wacky and had all the elements of a good family mix of ideals, thoughts, interests and love at the center of it all. We have been known to always have a family activity that gets us out and about and is usually an adventure. This year with different health issues I thought it would be pretty mellow. Then my Mom announced we were going on an electric bike tour. Ok, I thought, I think we can do that. As we donned our helmets and got our bikes (that went upwards of 20mph) I started to get more and more concerned about the safety of 78 and 14 hahahaha.
We practiced loops in the parking lot and I was getting more and more worried. Wow, being a mother and a daughter is no easy task hahahaah. Everyone was gung-ho and 14 thought I was just simply acting crazy as my worry turned to laughter, tears and outright fear. Having witnessed one accident a couple summers ago I was not ready to set myself up for another moment like that. Maybe I have PTSD from that.
Either way off we all went, single file down the street following the guide. It was an amazing day, right after a storm, so clear and clean and right before the next storm. The views were incredible and I was lost somewhere between the amazing views, my 14 year old holding back so he could then gun it as fast as it would go to race to the front and 78 hanging on a tandem bike!!! At one point, the guide said, as my son flew by, “I have been there” and I replied, “between my son and my dad I might have a heart attack!” Hahahahaha.
I also had a flashback to when they talked me into going down the black diamond slope in Park City. Something I can still get sweaty thinking about. Yet, after that I was able to relax a bit and enjoy this adventure. Out of my comfort zone and worried for everyone’s safety is a lesson for me. Breath, have Faith, enjoy the moment, everyone’s path is everyone’s path and I am not in control of any of that. And guess what? It all worked out perfectly fine and fun; hot cocoa, the candy store, a ferry ride, the breathtaking view, wind in the hair, learning a new skill, and family bonding!
Thanks Mom. Again needing that push out of the comfort zone and the benefits are beautiful. So, I feel you if you are sandwiched. Hang in there and try to breath and enjoy both ends of this spectrum. It won’t last forever and the memories from this time are priceless. Grateful am I.
Courtney Gebhart, Life Coach, Kundalini Yoga teacher, and Human Being.