Being Comfortable with the Uncomfortable.

What does it mean to be comfortable with the uncomfortable?
To be ok, really ok with what is going on around us. The Chaos, change, transition, transformation and so forth that is happening out there is a mirror of change, chaos, transition and transformation within us.
       Are we ok with not knowing, YET,  what the “new” will look like? Are we ok being in the process? The discovery? The path, the journey and the trip we have to take to the next level of existence? If we are stressing, focusing on the negative, the doom, it shouldn’t be happening (i.e. the judgement of what is), then we are not ok. Being not ok here will result in more not ok-ness. 
      To stay healthy and well during times like this we must do whatever it takes to get to the comfort. It is physical comfort and mental comfort. 
The dictionary defines comfort as: “a state of physical ease and freedom from pain or constraint, things that contribute to physical ease and well being, the easing or alleviation of a person’s feeling of grief or distress.”
     How do we bring in EASE when we are in distress? The tool box! This is where it is our job as human beings to fill this tool box with healthy, sustainable and creative ways to bring about ease and comfort when we are in distress. Why do I say sustainable ways? Eating a pint of ice cream, drinking, etc. are not sustainable. They create a false sense of ease. They create a covering over the discomfort and then when the cover is lifted there is an even greater sense of discomfort (guilt, shame, etc).
     So what are ways to foster comfort when we are in uncomfortable times? 

1. Being present. Sitting with what IS going on, what is happening. Maybe painful, but we can not move forward unless it is acknowledged. This is the “seeing”.
2. Moving through it as we learn, read, research and listen. All of these are actions. So taking acting while in distress will create ease.
3. Breathing, consciously. Taking 1 minute to connect to ourselves and our breath if it becomes “too much” will calm us down immediately. Doing this as many times a day as we need to. 
4. Walking, dancing, yoga, moving to connect with our body. This will free us so that we can sit with it. Releasing the tension from our nervous system, from holding energy and giving space to ourselves.

There are so many more. Sit with yourself and dig in to come up with your own personal ways to create ease in this time so that you can stay healthy and mentally and physically strong. 
     When you have created that feeling of ease, that all is well, then you can ask yourself, “what good can come from this?” Answers will come to you. This will be the new way of being for yourself and for the community at large. The more of us that can do this the more answers will appear, the quicker we will “get it” and be able to tip the point of transition. 





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