Build your mental muscle.

   Are you bumping up against frustration, exhaustion, worry, anger or even resignation?
    Shifting your focus can make all the difference. It doesn’t matter if it’s finances, friends, career, or relationship sometimes we get in a rut and we start feeling bad or frustrated. In the coaching arena we like to call this being “at the border”. Don’t stop there! 
     Three steps that help shift your focus:

1. Take one minute (and time it so you don’t go on and on hahahaah). Acknowledge to yourself what you are focusing on. Really be honest. Are you focusing on the lack or the things not working out, that they will always be this way etc. Go for one minute
2. Ask yourself is this serving you? Go all in here. Why isn't it serving you? For example: it is creating frustration, I want to quit. I am sick of it and so on. Do this for one minute.
3. What could you focus on that would serve you better? One minute. Just let ideas roll. Don’t judge them. 

   Why do we call this “being at the border?” Because when you are going into new territory crossing from the old way to the new way it brings about all sorts of mental junk. Just seeing it and understanding that can start to dissipate the mental angst. 
  Then if we switch the focus and take a small action (and I mean small), something that is very do-able right then and there. We will feel a “success” and that will start building our mental muscle for shifting focus. 
   Here is an example. With covid and all that is going on with business, I have been trying new things but ugh the technology is killing me. It takes me hours to do it. I am sure it takes other people five minutes. It is sucking the life out of me. Ugh I don’t want to try any more UGH. Obviously this isn’t serving me because I want to quit which will get me nowhere. Then all the work I have done will be in vain. Then I will feel like a loser because I gave up.
   So, I could focus on the fact that if I were to get the technology working then I would feel soooo good. I would be proud of myself for sticking with it, figuring it out and I will reap the benefits from what my original idea was! So (action) I am going to reach out, and ask for help. Log in immediately and get on the chat with someone who can guide me through it. 
     Yes, I can hear you. I already know all that! Yes, but knowing and doing are not the same!!! Take the challenge and push yourself through this. You will be glad you did!!! It is mental toughness!! Build your mental muscle. Let’s go!!!