Thanksgiving is coming up. I know it is different. It may be challenging or you may be missing family members. And yet the opportunity for doing things a different way is good for our growth. Not always easy but important in the long run.
What is important to you on thanksgiving?
Is it the food?
What are your favorite things about it?
Make sure some of those things are included and if it’s “being with family” that are not present then thank god we have zoom.
I know, I know everyone is sick of zoom. Believe me I have had 14-16 hour days of zoom hahahaha I get it. And yet I am sooooo grateful for zoom. The connection it has created and allowed is astonishing. If you had said last February, “hey in a couple of weeks you will only be able to talk to some of your family via the computer.” Everyone would have thought you were nuts! And yet here we are.
We will be zooming on Thanksgiving to include family and I am so grateful that it is an option.
They are safe and healthy and we can “see” them. That is a blessing.
It is a perspective shift and reframing of our belief about what this day means.
Here are 3 Things to help you on Thanksgiving:
1- Focus on the things that make you feel good and feel grateful.
I will be focusing on the smells in my house and laughter and goofiness and zooming.
I will be grateful for the health of everyone.
I will be grateful for all the growth that has happened this year.
I will be grateful for my tea and pie.
I will be grateful for my littles that are now bigs.
I will be grateful for love and joy in my heart.
2-You MUST You MUST you MUST take time for yourself. Please, self care everyday but during the holidays it is an absolute must. If you haven’t adopted this every day practice yet or you have let it slip then let me remind you to DO IT. Please. It is for yourself and for others because you are a better person when you give to yourself first. It can be small. Even a “time in” where you breathe with your eyes closed, focused on your heart and a beautiful memory from your life or it can be a walk but DO IT.
It all starts with you. Let it begin there and radiate out. Fill your cup so you can give to others and not get depleted. Ok, I am now getting off the soap box. Hahaha.
3-If the “can’t, won’t, this sucks, etc…” keep showing up for you. Here is a little exercise you can do. Immediately replace it with the opposite. For example, “I just can’t have a good thanksgiving without my whole family” flip this to “I am learning new ways and new traditions to bring joy to myself”. It isn’t denying the feeling of loss it is reframing the moment. This is important for your brain. You know how we are always talking about training your brain, well this is a perfect time to put some of these skills to practice. Commit to having a good day and you will.
I wish for you a thanksgiving celebration that is filled with gratitude and ease.
Love you all.
Courtney Gebhart, Life Coach, Kundalini Yoga teacher, and Human Being.