A lot of the work I do with clients is about observation. Starting to see and notice your go-to reactions, habits and patterns. Then they can be shifted. However, before you go anywhere your GPS needs to know where you are starting from. Then it can set your destination. Coaching is very much the same.
One valuable thing to notice is where you go emotionally when you are tired or stressed? Or maybe tired and stressed are a pattern. Where is your habitual home for your emotional state? It might be worry or sadness, fear or anxiety.
The reason this matters is because if we want things to be different we have to do things differently and the state we are in is crucial to making lasting change. How does that work?
For example when you are in love, blissful, exciting new love can anything go wrong? NO. You are so blissed out you just let things roll off you, you figure them out. It is like you are in a protective bubble from stress and worry hahahahaha. You know what I mean. Likewise when you are cranky and miserable don’t you just get more cranky and miserable to support that way of being, “oh great, now I have a flat tire too!!!”
So changing the pattern of your state is everything. Where you are coming from, your state, affects the decisions and choices you make. Which then affects your actions or procrastinations. You can shift your state when you observe yourself going down the rabbit hole of an unwanted patterned way of being.
Try these practices:
1. Choose 5 words that define who you are willing to be.
Repeat them often. Throughout the day. Before you have a phone call, a meeting or even breakfast with your family. You will be amazed how having a simple intention, of conscious way of being, to be kind, loving, generous, flexible and grateful will totally shift an interaction.
2. Move around. Just stop what you are doing and do 25 jumping jacks! Seriously! Break your pattern by doing something physical, for no reason, that is big and a bit crazy. Get out of your box here. The point is to shift a pattern so you have to shake yourself up. Clapping and cheering with loud whoooooops is a good way to do it too! Adding a sound magnifies the shift!!!!!!
3. Acknowledge it and shift it. If you feel locked into an emotion and you are sick of it and you know it isn’t serving you yet, you have been unable to get out of it. Set 90 seconds on your phone. Go on a full rant about it. For instance say you are stuck in frustration just purge everything out as fast as you can, out loud. Don’t think, just spit it out. Go, keep going, use the full 90 seconds (“ugh, this sucks, I can’t do this, I hate it, I feel so bad, I want to run away and live on an island, ugh ugh ugh ). When the time is up immediately jump up and down (set the timer again for at least 90 sec. if you can do 2 minutes even better) cheer, clap, dance, jump, don’t stop, I mean it, don’t stop, standing cross crawl, breath of fire while jumping MOVE!!!!!! When the timer goes off, sit, close your eyes, bring your breath back to the center and think of three things you are grateful for. Then go back to whatever you need to do.
If you need help with any of these let me know. They are game changers. Are you willing to do things differently? Yes!!!! I know you are. You feel better when you feel better hahahaahah and we are in control of that. Even during covid!!!!! Happy Tuesday. Thank you all for being here. If you need the tool of kundalini yoga. August 1st is coming up so sign up for the monthly membership and get my yoga classes in your house whenever you want them!!!! Click here to learn more about the classes. Love you all!!!
Courtney Gebhart, Life Coach, Kundalini Yoga teacher, and Human Being.