Here is some great news.
Awareness is proof you are growing and moving toward a life more fulfilled.
As we work on new patterns that serve us and new ways of being that create different results in our lives, when a slip, back to an old pattern happens, boy is it obvious!!!
This recently happened to me. I knew what I needed to do. I knew my answer and yet I threw it out to someone to “ask” what I should do. They not only didn’t support my idea, they negated it AND I went with that.
It’s been years since I have done this. I didn’t recognize it at first but as a day or two went by and I got input on doing what I originally knew was the best thing in this situation I realized what I had done. Wow!!!! I was shocked and mad at myself. Hahahaah I really stepped into all the old patterns in one situation.
The good news here was that I saw it, realized it, didn’t stay there long AND even celebrated myself for seeing what I had done. I flipped it. I am proud of myself for stopping that cycle and I am grateful that this happened to point out how the new way of being has been working so much better for me.
I could have gone down the rabbit hole of beating myself up, not correcting the course, and on and on, ugh you know that vicious cycle! The key is seeing it and not staying there. This is the practice!!
When we try to do something new or change our way of being, It takes repetition. Repetition to build the muscle to our new way of being. We have built the muscle, maybe for years, the “old” way. So learning to do things a new way takes repetition to re-teach our brain.
This is why I am always talking about it as a practice. It isn’t one and done. Hey, I worked out today, now I will be in shape for the rest of my life. It is obviously a consistent and continuous practice to keep ourselves in good, physical shape.
This, too, is true of our behavior. If we know that the way we are being isn’t serving us anymore we need to be patient with ourselves as we build that muscle through repetition and consistent and continuous practice. If we slide into an “old” way, observing it and noticing it means we are on the path. If we didn’t know when we weren’t doing it then we wouldn’t know we needed to get back on track. I know that sounds wacky but in the observation is the growth.
It is sooooo obvious with our body but often we think we should just get it when it comes to our mind and actions, our patterns! Patience, perseverance and repetition! Kundalini yoga (the yoga of awareness, hence why it is so transformational), breath work, coaching, support, mindset work, etc….are all tools that help build this pattern-breaking-muscle. Stay the course and when you slip and SEE it!!! Celebrate!!!! You ARE getting it. Give yourself a high five, a pat on the back and acknowledge how far you have come and all your growth! And then keep on going. Keep up and keep on!!
Courtney Gebhart, Life Coach, Kundalini Yoga teacher, and Human Being.