Thanksgiving is coming up. I know it is different. It may be challenging or you may be missing family members. And yet the opportunity for doing things a different way is good for our growth. Not always easy but important in the long run.
What is important to you on thanksgiving?
Is it the food?
What are your favorite things about it?
Make sure some of those things are included and if it’s “being with family” that are not present then thank god we have zoom.
I know, I know everyone is sick of zoom. Believe me I have had 14-16 hour days of zoom hahahaha I get it. And yet I am sooooo grateful for zoom. The connection it has created and allowed is astonishing. If you had said last February, “hey in a couple of weeks you will only be able to talk to some of your family via the computer.” Everyone would have thought you were nuts! And yet here we are.
We will be zooming on Thanksgiving to include family and I am so grateful that it is an option.
They are safe and healthy and we can “see” them. That is a blessing.
It is a perspective shift and reframing of our belief about what this day means.
Here are 3 Things to help you on Thanksgiving:
1- Focus on the things that make you feel good and feel grateful.
I will be focusing on the smells in my house and laughter and goofiness and zooming.
I will be grateful for the health of everyone.
I will be grateful for all the growth that has happened this year.
I will be grateful for my tea and pie.
I will be grateful for my littles that are now bigs.
I will be grateful for love and joy in my heart.
2-You MUST You MUST you MUST take time for yourself. Please, self care everyday but during the holidays it is an absolute must. If you haven’t adopted this every day practice yet or you have let it slip then let me remind you to DO IT. Please. It is for yourself and for others because you are a better person when you give to yourself first. It can be small. Even a “time in” where you breathe with your eyes closed, focused on your heart and a beautiful memory from your life or it can be a walk but DO IT.
It all starts with you. Let it begin there and radiate out. Fill your cup so you can give to others and not get depleted. Ok, I am now getting off the soap box. Hahaha.
3-If the “can’t, won’t, this sucks, etc…” keep showing up for you. Here is a little exercise you can do. Immediately replace it with the opposite. For example, “I just can’t have a good thanksgiving without my whole family” flip this to “I am learning new ways and new traditions to bring joy to myself”. It isn’t denying the feeling of loss it is reframing the moment. This is important for your brain. You know how we are always talking about training your brain, well this is a perfect time to put some of these skills to practice. Commit to having a good day and you will.
I wish for you a thanksgiving celebration that is filled with gratitude and ease.
Love you all.
Today I want to give you an exercise in focus.
Has anyone ever asked you what you want and you kind of stall and then list all the things you don’t want?
You might be certain in one area of your life like work or finances but maybe another area like health or relationship feels like a mystery.
Energy flows where focus goes so as you focus on all the things you don’t want your brain hears them and says, “oh those must be important. I will make sure to give her lots of that.”
Seriously, this is a scientific fact.
An example of this is when something becomes important to you, you start noticing it everywhere. It could be you just loved a movie and saw an actor you like in that movie and now you see that actor everywhere. Or you went to test drive a red Tesla and now everywhere you go you see red Teslas. Those things were always around you, you just didn’t notice them until your brain thought it was important to you.
You can even test this out.
Think of something and plant the seed in your brain, I wonder if I should start drinking celery juice? Read a couple of articles and then see if you start noticing stuff about celery hahahaha.
What is exciting about this is that you can consciously choose what you want to focus on. Make it something that supports you and serves you.
If you want to be healthier and eat better. Start supporting that with what you buy at the grocery, read about it and even when you are working out or walking repeat, “I am getting healthier and healthier every day!” Direct your focus.
So here is the challenge.
This week every time you think of something you don’t want erase it and say the opposite. Even if you don’t “know” what you want just use the word that is opposite of what you don’t want. “I don’t want to be tempted by junk food any more, I don’t want to over eat.” Switch that immediately in your brain: "Oops, brain, what I really want is to enjoy and love healthy and delicious veggies (and say it with excitement and maybe even jump up and down) and I will stop when I am full so I can run around and enjoy my kids.”
Give this a go. You will be amazed at the results.
Let me know. I love to hear how it is going for you.
Thanks sweet family.
Have you heard the acronym K.I.S.S.?
Keep It Simple Sweety (it was stupid but I don’t like that!!!)
By the way, never call yourself stupid.
Ever, ever, ever, ever never ever!!! You can remind yourself, hey I need to improve that or I am growing in that area but please don’t call yourself stupid!
Keeping things simple is such a game changer. How often do you complicate things and then don’t do them because they just seem soooooo huge?!!!
Try to remember a time when you did that. Think about it for a sec.
What happened? Did you still do it? Was it just too much? Could you have done it in a simpler way?
Would it still have had an affect?
Recently I had an assignment to deliver a random act of kindness. Something out of my comfort zone and I only had a couple hours and it was already late at night.
I needed to run to the market and I was whizzing around. My normal way of being is to smile and acknowledge people so I couldn’t use that. It had to be something else. I turned down the next isle and there was a guy, who worked there, with his head down on his arm resting on a counter.
Bing!!! Wow, normally I would think. Something is going on here and I don’t want to interrupt.
However, the bing to bring kindness was louder.
I crouched down and said, “hi”. He stayed down and turned his head pulled up his mask (which had been lowered to his chin) and just nodded.
I was feeling good, energetic and happy so I was coming from that place and I just simply said, "do you know how late the store is open?"
Well, wow!!! He stood up, in control, proud, “yes, we are open til 11”.
I said, “isn’t that great! You are almost done with your shift.”
He started laughing and we talked for a bit.
He had been having a rough time, I didn’t know what was going on but just by talking to him from my heart and connecting I knew the rest of his shift was going to be great.
That was it. Just human to human. Seeing each other and connecting. That can be an act of kindness.
So I challenge you to do something, maybe a little out of your comfort zone.
Keep it simple!
And do it today.
Happy happy Tuesday.
How is the gratitude challenge going?
Are you doing it?
How are you feeling?
Does the checklist give you some new ways to think of gratitude?
This photo is our family gratitude jar. At dinner we each wrote 3 gratefuls. It is fun to look back at some of the things you have put in the jar.
Keep up the great work.
Let's flip 2020.
How has your self care September been going?
I hope you have been able to add some extra space for yourself as we bring the month to a close.
Were you able to do a little “time in” for yourself? Everyday?
What did you notice?
If you didn’t do it that’s ok, no shame or blame.
I have been there! I get it.
For me it was and sometimes still is a challenge, but what I have realized over the years is that it isn’t a manicure or a weekend getaway, although you may enjoy those things and, heck yes, if you can do them and you want to, then do it.
However, what I noticed for myself is that it is taking a moment, even the smallest moment, daily, to just let myself be.
It gives me a little boost and a little ease and takes the pressure off.
Little actions add up to make big shifts.
Make today and tomorrow, the last two days of September count!!! Pump up that self care.
It is a worthy habit.
Really, you matter most.
As a friend of mine said, “you are the center of your universe” and from there we give and do and our cup will run over with love, light, kindness and joy.
Next month . . . can you believe it is almost October?
On the 1st, I will be sending out a Gratitude Challenge.
I know, in Oct? Heck YES. I am feeling it now. Haha.
We are flipping this 2020!!!
If you know anyone who may enjoy this please invite them to join in. (Just have them join our Newsletter here.)
Happy end of September and may the Fall begin, cue leaves. :)
Happy Tuesday Sweet Friends!!!
Since it was my birthday last week (the 18th) I am including this video I shot with a meditation for you all.
In my tradition we give goodies (bake a treat or my grandmas carob balls yum) but since I can’t share treats with you, I wanted to give this meditation to you.
It is what I wish for my birthday; prosperity, everyone successfully thriving.
I was so grateful that on my birthday walk I saw one little dandelion and so I got to make my wish by blowing the beautiful seeds everywhere and planting that throughout the universe.
If you have questions about the meditation reach out.
And please join us for the Circle of Hope on Wednesday (click here to get the link).
Now is the time to deeply dig into yourself and step into all that is, so that thriving is the only option. It will be contagious and will spread and will help change the world.
Let it begin with you.
Love you all
Today I made you a little video a pep talk!!!
Because it feels like we could all use one right now.
I have officially deemed September as, “Self Care September”! It is such a challenging month under normal circumstances and there is nothing “normal” about this September. Everyone is under even more pressure, tension, stress and friction!
As a mom September, December and May have always delivered an extra scoop of crazy.
September brings the transition of schedules, new schools and new teachers and moving from summer freedom into structure. December, of course, delivers the holiday slam and May is back to transitions.
So going into this last quarter of the year please do a daily dose of self care.
I can’t say this enough. It doesn’t have to be some big tadoooo. It could simply be closing your eyes and deeply breathing five long, deep breaths. Seriously this can feel like a vacation hahaha.
Some moments to yourself will make all the difference. For your own stress levels and the result will ripple out to those around you.
Move through your day with a greater awareness of when you need to take a break and then take It.
As I said before it could be five breaths or:
We have the Circle of Hope meditation on Wednesday.
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Private coaching: if you need support reach out for a free chat to see if coaching could help you move through these challenging times.
Coaching isn’t just me being a cheerleader for you, although I am thrilled watching my clients break through and crush their limiting beliefs. I use tools and strategies to guide you through when you are feeling stuck, stagnant, uninspired and trapped by your same ole same ole thinking!
Sending love and ease to everyone!!!! Let’s flip this September and make it the most ease filled, relaxed month of the year!!!! It’s up to us. We can do it.
Let’s clear our stress so we can then take action with clarity and ease. Sounds good right?!!!!
The plan is to join together for the next 18 Wednesdays in 2020. WHAT? Is that even possible? 18 Wednesdays left of this year?
This will be a quick meditation to bring us to the clarity and knowing that all is well. Then we can see for ourselves what we need to do as we move forward into the school year, the election, anti-racism, the holidays and dealing with covid.
It is imperative to keep our stress levels down so our health remains high. No doubt there will be some external challenges ahead just further emphasizing the importance of being calm within!
I hope you will join us.
Sending love to all of you
Can you feel it?
Are you there with me?
Let’s bust through it.
This time of Covid is here for us to break through our fears.
Each and everyone of us has a different Achilles heel, a weak spot, that we can crack open with the light of awareness, exposing us to something that has been hidden or is ready to be released, that had been buried or even denied.
If you sit with that can you “see” what it is?
Is it a surprise? Is it hard to look at?
Are you ready to look at it?
As the old saying goes, “there is no time like the present”.
Can you imagine if that wasn’t a fear or an “issue” for you? What would that mean to you?
What would be different for you? How would you feel?
I have a lot of questions today hahaha.
I am seeing this a lot.
Take time today to just ponder this.
Walk with it. Sit with it. Sleep on it. Meditate on it. Write about it. Answer these questions.
See what bubbles up.
Let’s do the work.
This is a time of transformation for each and every one of us. As a whole we need to transform and yet this transformation begins with each of us, individually.
If we want to help heal the world, let's start today and look deeply at ourselves.
Let’s ALL move through to the other side. Let it begin with you.
How to do this meditation:
Sit with a tall straight spine.
Interlock the fingers and extend the ring fingers (see video).
Place them at the top of your rib cage with the ring fingers pointing up 60 degrees.
Begin by tuning in with Ong Namo Guru Dev Namo (three times).
Inhale through your nose and as you exhale chant Ong. Long and full with your complete exhale.
Do a minimum of five Ongs.
Notice the sensation as the sound vibrates throughout your body! This is very calming.
I do this a lot when I wake up in the middle of the night.
Courtney Gebhart, Life Coach, Kundalini Yoga teacher, and Human Being.