When you get to a certain age you can look back and see the journey . . . some of it makes sense. Some of the pain and lessons have enough distance to show the path that they put us on. Some lessons are still revealing themselves as we move through it, forward.
We know intellectually that we aren’t guaranteed any specific amount of time for this journey. For this human experience. When something hits, like this global situation, it shines a light on that. People of any age, stage, pre-existing conditions, or none . . . can come abruptly to the end of their journey. So when we see that up-close and personal it can open another door to our awareness. Awareness of what we are doing and who we are being. Who are you willing to be going forward? Are you willing to take action despite the monkey mind that may show up? It might be comparison or excuses, self doubt or judgements, either-or thinking. It will be your Achilles heel.
It is different for each one of us. Usually when it shows up strongly it actually means you are on to something, peeling another layer of your onion and it is the willingness to continue on in spite of this inner commentary that will enable you to continue on your hero’s journey. Can you do it? Yes! You can. Take it easy, take care of yourself, be patient, loving, kind, gentle to yourself AND keep going. We need you to do what only you can do. Please do it!!! Who are you willing to be going forward?
How are you? Really, how are you?
So much information, misinformation, people complying, people rebelling, protesting, theories, opinions, guesses, ahhhhhhhhh WTF! Has your brain had it with this moment? I think everyone on the planet has had it. The key to our sanity is how long do you dwell there? Really.
This is such a trap for sucking our energy, our life force. The life force that keeps us physically healthy, mentally healthy and leading from love and kindness. My wish for everyone is that they are taking time to walk quietly, drink tea, plant plants, keep some space that was gained, that was rediscovered while we had to be at home. To keep some of that as we move forward.
This is the Aquarian age. The lights have been turned on, things are being exposed, great shifts will occur and need to occur. I hope you gained some personal clarity during this time. That you see what is important and what isn’t, that taking care of yourself demands a new level of commitment. If you are feeling rattled or anxious and worried. Please reach out. I am here. This is what I do.
And our Coaching Circle will do that together, in a small, intimate group. It is a beautiful way to come together for support, guidance, growth and ease as we slowly emerge from this time of isolation into our new way of being. Make this time count. Make it matter to you and your family. Thrive don’t just survive this time of transformation….breathe…..all is well. Happy Tuesday.
Yes it is! Especially in times like these when it's easy to spiral and let Monkey Mind take over. Coaching, yoga, and meditation are the tools that stop that spiral and shift your thoughts from what isn’t serving you to what is. Like going to the gym for your brain.
Why is this important?
Because everything starts in your brain. We think something and that causes a chain reaction. Sometimes that is a good thing and sometimes it isn’t. It is too important to leave it to happenstance. We have to create the ability to shift what we are thinking so that the chain reaction is energizing, motivating, healthy, intuitive and growth inducing. Does this mean that you will never feel sadness, frustration, discouragement, fear, worry, doubt, pain etc.? No. We are human and we will feel those feelings. We will be in situations that bring about all sorts of mental and emotional turbulence. However, it is the ability to move through it, being present to it, and allow, and observe so that we don’t get stuck there. That is where the tools of coaching and meditation come in to play. To work on your mind everyday. It doesn’t have to be long but it needs to be consistent. So that when something powerful comes into your space you are ready to face it, see it, allow it to move through you. Then you can emerge on the other side of it stronger, more powerfully YOU and having grown.
That is why I am doing my Coaching Circle. To support, encourage and instill this everyday practice into your life so that during these times and ALL times you can stay in the center of yourself and not be thrown over the edge of the boat.
If you have questions please reach out. I will also be on Facebook live Wednesday, 5/13/20, at 4:00 pm (PT) to discuss it. There has never been a better time to master your ability to shift your own thoughts than now! Six weeks. $44.00 a week to turn the practice into a habit that can change the way you feel, what you are doing and how you are being. Let’s get coaching!! Course begins May 20th.
As some towns and countries begin to ease restrictions while others are in complete chaos, infighting about rights, masks and distancing what is needed now more than ever is the ability to see and then unsee. In yoga we talk about this a lot.
Seeing, not sticking your head in the sand, yet then "unseeing" and allowing yourself to continue on your path without the drag of this observation. What am I talking about? Well, if we are to continue on with our pursuits without the drag of extreme worry and fear we must be able to do this so we are not caught in the pervasive energy of this circumstantial situation. I can feel this energy so strongly and I have to up my practice.
Being consistent, continuous and committed to my higher good is what I know to be crucial in these times. It is the only way forward. Otherwise we will be caught in this chaos and pulled over so to speak into a cul-de-sac, stalled out. If you want support with this, I am all in and super excited to announce that we are opening up our new Coaching Circle!
This unique, six-week course will combine coaching through these times, keeping you on your path, kundalini yoga and meditation for the mind, body and spirit. It will be uplifting, energizing, fun and supportive. We can survive and thrive during this time. We can invent and reinvent and reboot what it is we are doing and how we are living. Let us go forward with ease and grace consciously moving with intention and faith. We can do this. Let's GO.
Ok really!! What are you doing for yourself? Now. Yes, in these times? Seriously!!!!! If not now, when? I know. I know all those people you are taking care of and worrying about and concerned over. I get it. But the buck stops here.
If nothing else we must learn to take care of ourselves first! First! First! Is your monkey mind saying but that is selfish, narcissistic, I don’t have time (even in isolation), the house will fall apart, the this, the that? I get it. I do.
AND time to break through that old, tired, worn out conversation in your head. It is false and unhealthy and holding you back. Now is the time to find the simple pleasures that really make your heart sing. Seeing the bees in full force right now, hearing the birds and trying to spot them, putting on music I WANT to listen to and rocking out (even if the teen is horrified hahahahaha). These have been a few of mine recently that just make me feel so good and calm and at peace. Fully engaging in the moment for yourself.
Let us learn this now in isolation so that we can carry it forward to the new normal. Don’t go back, don’t wish for what was as “normal”. Time to reinvent, rediscover, reboot and go forward creating it exactly how you want it to be. Imagine and create your new normal.
What are you taking with you? What are you leaving behind? Like the snake shedding his skin…...leave it and walk into your new way of being. Bring gusto, energy, faith, willingness, strength and more. Let’s go! The world needs us to live from our authentic selves, together, each bringing a wholeness that will make a difference. Let it begin with you.
Happy Tuesday. Welcome to your new you.
As I sit here and feel the tensions rising, the separation happening, a derisive intent . . . what can we do?
We can do a lot!!!! We can feel the feelings and then control our thoughts. We can use the anger, sadness, fear, worry, anxiety as fuel to spread the fire of love. We are in this together and we can support each other. Reach out and support those who normally support your lifestyle.
Reach out and support those who normally support your lifestyle. For me that is buying a gift card from our local surf shop that has sponsored my son since he was 7 years old, buying a shirt from a friend's small company, a restaurant gift card to a family-owned restaurant, donating (even small amounts matter) to Haven's Fund for families struggling in New York, donating a tree in your Mom's name to Tree People, buying a grocery gift card at the check out and handing it to the cashier or the bagger, supporting your kids' Coaches with a donation (it can be what 1 training session would have been) and for me the more I think of, the more I think of.
We all need support and connection. We are physically distanced but we can connect socially with Zoom, FaceTime, calling, texting etc. We are so lucky that there are so many ways to connect. So:
Love to you all.
How are you this week? How are you doing? How are you on this roller coaster ride of not knowing…? Let us use this time to go inside, inside ourselves to discover and strengthen what is important to us and how we are willing to show up to live from that place. This is such a good time to observe our thoughts and ask ourselves what is important to us? What do we want to dive deeper into? What do we want to take forward with us when we emerge from this physical distancing? What are you willing to focus on? What are you willing to do to get out of your way so you can live from the place of what is important to you?
Let us explore these questions together. I am going live on Facebook every Wednesday at 4:00 pm (PT) to answer your questions. Email me, dm, reach out and let me support you as we go through this time so we can emerge as transformed, uplifted and ready to make a difference. Join the Facebook Live here.
Why do they call yoga and meditation a practice? Well,to me it is because it is ongoing. It isn’t something you are “finished” doing or mastered and done with. You can master it, which to me means that you have committed to it as a consistent and everyday practice. I know that I am better off in every way if I do it. That my day is better, my mind is clearer and I am able to deal with much more. That is what keeps me coming back. Then it becomes just a habit like brushing your teeth or taking out the trash. You just do it. The fight to do it or not do it is gone. It doesn’t mean that you will have less need for it or more or less challenges or issues. It is a tool to deal with all that is. This thing we are in now.
This pandemic, isolation, social distancing, quarantine etc. is a true test for us to master this habit. To master the practice of dealing with ourselves, our minds, our actions and reactions and to come out stronger and more capable of creating new and different ways of being. For the future of this planet, our health and the next evolution. This aligns also with having a coach. A person to support you through your mental stopping points that hold you back, keep you playing small or negative.
During this time, I have decided to teach a short yoga class each weekday at Noon (PT). Please join us -- we'll meet through Zoom so you'll need to register through this link and then we'll send you the link each day to log on. And then at the end of each week, we'll send you a recording of the classes we did.
Now is the time for support and to relax into ourselves. Let’s use this time to go inside like the cocoon so we can emerge a butterfly, ready to live life from our truest self, from what we know to be right for us. That will then affect the whole, the collective and the greater good.
Stay healthy. Sending love.
Hi all!!!! Hope you are doing ok and finding ways to connect with others for support as well as fun. I have heard so many people say they are waking up in the middle of the night, their mind racing and they are having trouble falling back to sleep.
I wanted to share three tools that have helped me get back to sleep. Whether it was marital stress, pregnant hormone sleepless nights, baby brain, having teenagers or menopause, these tools have worked for me. The first one is from my childhood and it still works!!!
1. When you wake up and your mind is off and running lay on your back and close your eyes. Start at your feet. Squeeze only your feet. As hard as you can, hold your breath for a count of 10 (if you can) or 5 and build up. Then release. Move up to just your knees. Isolate and squeeze just your knees. I know it is hard to squeeze just your knees. That is part of the mental challenge, isolating your muscles. Continue isolating each part of your body. Your calves, quads, hamstrings, stomach, chest, hands, bicep, shoulders, neck, face muscles etc. When you have done the whole body part by part then inhale and squeeze the whole body, really tight, hold the breath, count. Release. Do the whole body 3 times. You should be exhausted and relaxed physically. Let yourself drift back to sleep.
2. The second way works for me if I have a specific worry, a worry that has been with me for some time and when it pops in it, likes to take over. I physically get up. Sit on my meditation cushion and do a meditation for 3, 7 or 11 minutes. I am usually ready to easily go back to sleep after that. You can use either of the recent meditations I have shared. The one for the negative mind or the one for the heart. I have used both for middle of the night mental clearing! You will find the negative mind meditation at the end of the yoga class that is attached to this email (we are on day 14 of the practice as of this newsletter). Jump in and join us if you haven’t already.
Do it. Just start! Try to do it everyday!!!! I promise you it is a habit that will serve you for the rest of your life. The meditation for expanding your heart and protection and projection is posted on my Instagram on my IGtv. If you need help finding it please reach out.
3. The third thing that helps me get back to sleep is to write. Keep your journal next to your bed so you don’t have to run around looking for it. Just get it all out on the paper. Everything that is flooding your mind. It doesn’t need to make sense or look good on the paper. Just cough it all up as we say in coaching. Don’t worry about spelling or punctuation. Just let it be stream of consciousness. Whew, it will feel good. You will feel so much lighter and ready to drift back off.
Here’s to better sleep. It is so important. It is fundamental for mental health. We need to rest our mind and body so we stay healthy. Sending you all love.
I know I have said it before but there has never been a more important time to be able to master your thoughts. The only thing we can control is what is going on in our own head. We must take this opportunity, being shut in, to truly go inside ourselves.
Even when things go back to “normal” the ripple effect from the current events will last possibly forever. A new “normal” is being born. Paradigms are shifting in education, healthcare, financial institutions, the environment, politics . . . things that have needed a shift for decades are now going to shift and we must begin with ourselves.
If it is challenging for you to do the meditation that is in the class I taught (posted on home page). Then just do it for one min. A few times a day. Try to build your ability to sit muscle. To focus on your breath. This calms the nervous system down. It calms the amygdala, the primitive part of your brain. Now is the time to uncover and dig deep into your brain to discover those parts that we haven’t tapped into yet. Evolution is screaming at us to evolve, to evolve past the caveman way of thinking into a greater capacity. It starts with just simply being willing to do this. To sit. To bring your right hand into the palm of your left hand at your heart center. To look into your palms. To inhale through your nose bringing in with that inhale all the fear, your negative, catastrophic thoughts and then blowing them out with the exhale through your mouth.
It is like taking your garbage to the curb. If you throw away all your trash but never take it to the curb it will just overflow in your house. All your trash cans will be overflowing. You have to take it to the curb. Here, you have to bring in all those thoughts so you can blow them out. If you keep them hiding, they will grow and get louder.
It is a practice. Not time consuming but something that needs doing every day. Repetition is the key. Just like we have to tell our kids thousands of times before they get it. Our brains are the same. They have been operating like this for thousands of years. We need to practice every day. Small steps, small bits of time but every day!
Courtney Gebhart, Life Coach, Kundalini Yoga teacher, and Human Being.